Things to think about early on...
Do you have someone to talk to? Make an appointment with a professional counsellor or psychologist.
Sometimes leaving a relationship is a no-brainer. You just can’t take it anymore and their behaviour is unacceptable.
Sometimes it’s a hard decision. You want to look back and know you made the right decision for the right reasons.
And sometimes you don’t have any choice in the matter and it’s a devastating surprise.
No matter the circumstances – find a professional to chat with. Friends are great, but sometimes friends just say what we want to hear and not what we need to hear. And be encouraged – there is a way through the mess. People ‘get through’ separation and go on to have wonderful lives and relationships.
Make an appointment with an experienced lawyer you can trust.
Make sure your lawyer is EXPERIENCED. This is an area of law where experience matters. Don’t get your legal advice from family or friends. Every situation is different. What happened with your friend may not apply to your situation. An experienced lawyer will understand ALL the issues and know how to guide you to a fair property settlement, sensible arrangements for the children, and the changes to expect after separation. And they will know how to document your agreement so that it is binding and enforceable.
Make sure you see a lawyer early on.
What you do in the critical period straight after separation can have long term consequences with respect to the care arrangements for children and property settlement.
The early decisions you make about moving out or staying in the home; about the kids and about your finances, are extremely important. You should get advice from an experienced lawyer, as soon as possible.